90 days

90-day In-the-moment reset

Make the observer move automatic for 90 days of real-life spikes: notice, let pass, stay on the road.

90-day automatic in-the-moment return

The same Highway skill, sequenced for real situations: notice the heated thought, let it pass, and return before you follow it into the fight.

For the moment you start to get angry, upset, or spun up: one short move you can use in real life.

Program outcomes are practice goals for a self-guided observer habit. CONA is not therapy, diagnosis, crisis support, or a promised medical result.

Before you enroll

The outcome, milestones, and percent are visible before you pay or enroll.

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Milestones

Milestone 1 · day 21

When irritation starts, step to the roadside before you answer. Mark day 21 complete to lock this checkpoint.

Milestone 2 · day 45

Name the angry car, then let it leave without chasing it. Mark day 45 complete to lock this checkpoint.

Milestone 3 · day 70

Use the same move in a tense conversation, not only on the cushion. Mark day 70 complete to lock this checkpoint.

Milestone 4 · day 90

Return after a spike so the rest of the day is not the argument. Mark day 90 complete to lock this checkpoint.

Day-by-day plan

Day 1 · week 1
Highway Basics
Day 1: When irritation starts, step to the roadside before you answer.
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Day 2 · week 1
Highway Basics
Day 2: When irritation starts, step to the roadside before you answer.
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Day 3 · week 1
Highway Basics
Day 3: When irritation starts, step to the roadside before you answer.
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Day 4 · week 1
Highway Basics
Day 4: When irritation starts, step to the roadside before you answer.
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Day 5 · week 1
Highway Basics
Day 5: When irritation starts, step to the roadside before you answer.
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Day 6 · week 1
Highway Basics
Day 6: When irritation starts, step to the roadside before you answer.
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Day 7 · week 1
Return to the Whole Road
Day 7: When irritation starts, step to the roadside before you answer.
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Day 8 · week 2
Highway Basics
Day 8: Name the angry car, then let it leave without chasing it.
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Day 9 · week 2
Highway Basics
Day 9: Name the angry car, then let it leave without chasing it.
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Day 10 · week 2
Highway Basics
Day 10: Name the angry car, then let it leave without chasing it.
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Day 11 · week 2
Highway Basics
Day 11: Name the angry car, then let it leave without chasing it.
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Day 12 · week 2
Highway Basics
Day 12: Name the angry car, then let it leave without chasing it.
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Day 13 · week 2
Highway Basics
Day 13: Name the angry car, then let it leave without chasing it.
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Day 14 · week 2
One Car Catches Your Eye
Day 14: Name the angry car, then let it leave without chasing it.
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Day 15 · week 3
Highway Basics
Day 15: Use the same move in a tense conversation, not only on the cushion.
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Day 16 · week 3
Highway Basics
Day 16: Use the same move in a tense conversation, not only on the cushion.
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Day 17 · week 3
Highway Basics
Day 17: Use the same move in a tense conversation, not only on the cushion.
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Day 18 · week 3
Highway Basics
Day 18: Use the same move in a tense conversation, not only on the cushion.
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Day 19 · week 3
Highway Basics
Day 19: Use the same move in a tense conversation, not only on the cushion.
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Day 20 · week 3
Highway Basics
Day 20: Use the same move in a tense conversation, not only on the cushion.
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Day 21 · week 3
Traffic Without Following
Day 21: Use the same move in a tense conversation, not only on the cushion.
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Day 22 · week 4
Highway Basics
Day 22: Return after a spike so the rest of the day is not the argument.
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Day 23 · week 4
Highway Basics
Day 23: Return after a spike so the rest of the day is not the argument.
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Day 24 · week 4
Highway Basics
Day 24: Return after a spike so the rest of the day is not the argument.
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Day 25 · week 4
Highway Basics
Day 25: Return after a spike so the rest of the day is not the argument.
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Day 26 · week 4
Highway Basics
Day 26: Return after a spike so the rest of the day is not the argument.
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Day 27 · week 4
Highway Basics
Day 27: Return after a spike so the rest of the day is not the argument.
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Day 28 · week 4
Open Watch
Day 28: Return after a spike so the rest of the day is not the argument.
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Day 29 · week 5
Highway Basics
Day 29: Practice the move on ordinary weekday friction.
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Day 30 · week 5
Highway Basics
Day 30: Practice the move on ordinary weekday friction.
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Day 31 · week 5
Highway Basics
Day 31: Practice the move on ordinary weekday friction.
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Day 32 · week 5
Highway Basics
Day 32: Practice the move on ordinary weekday friction.
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Day 33 · week 5
Highway Basics
Day 33: Practice the move on ordinary weekday friction.
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Day 34 · week 5
Highway Basics
Day 34: Practice the move on ordinary weekday friction.
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Day 35 · week 5
Return to the Whole Road
Day 35: Practice the move on ordinary weekday friction.
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Day 36 · week 6
Highway Basics
Day 36: When several thoughts arrive at once, watch the whole road.
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Day 37 · week 6
Highway Basics
Day 37: When several thoughts arrive at once, watch the whole road.
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Day 38 · week 6
Highway Basics
Day 38: When several thoughts arrive at once, watch the whole road.
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Day 39 · week 6
Highway Basics
Day 39: When several thoughts arrive at once, watch the whole road.
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Day 40 · week 6
Highway Basics
Day 40: When several thoughts arrive at once, watch the whole road.
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Day 41 · week 6
Highway Basics
Day 41: When several thoughts arrive at once, watch the whole road.
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Day 42 · week 6
One Car Catches Your Eye
Day 42: When several thoughts arrive at once, watch the whole road.
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Day 43 · week 7
Highway Basics
Day 43: Keep the skill on quiet days so it is there when you get upset.
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Day 44 · week 7
Highway Basics
Day 44: Keep the skill on quiet days so it is there when you get upset.
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Day 45 · week 7
Highway Basics
Day 45: Keep the skill on quiet days so it is there when you get upset.
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Day 46 · week 7
Highway Basics
Day 46: Keep the skill on quiet days so it is there when you get upset.
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Day 47 · week 7
Highway Basics
Day 47: Keep the skill on quiet days so it is there when you get upset.
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Day 48 · week 7
Highway Basics
Day 48: Keep the skill on quiet days so it is there when you get upset.
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Day 49 · week 7
Traffic Without Following
Day 49: Keep the skill on quiet days so it is there when you get upset.
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Day 50 · week 8
Highway Basics
Day 50: Close the cycle still able to let one heated thought pass.
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Day 51 · week 8
Highway Basics
Day 51: Close the cycle still able to let one heated thought pass.
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Day 52 · week 8
Highway Basics
Day 52: Close the cycle still able to let one heated thought pass.
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Day 53 · week 8
Highway Basics
Day 53: Close the cycle still able to let one heated thought pass.
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Day 54 · week 8
Highway Basics
Day 54: Close the cycle still able to let one heated thought pass.
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Day 55 · week 8
Highway Basics
Day 55: Close the cycle still able to let one heated thought pass.
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Day 56 · week 8
Open Watch
Day 56: Close the cycle still able to let one heated thought pass.
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Day 57 · week 9
Highway Basics
Day 57: Make the in-the-moment return the default, not the exception.
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Day 58 · week 9
Highway Basics
Day 58: Make the in-the-moment return the default, not the exception.
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Day 59 · week 9
Highway Basics
Day 59: Make the in-the-moment return the default, not the exception.
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Day 60 · week 9
Highway Basics
Day 60: Make the in-the-moment return the default, not the exception.
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Day 61 · week 9
Highway Basics
Day 61: Make the in-the-moment return the default, not the exception.
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Day 62 · week 9
Highway Basics
Day 62: Make the in-the-moment return the default, not the exception.
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Day 63 · week 9
Return to the Whole Road
Day 63: Make the in-the-moment return the default, not the exception.
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Day 64 · week 10
Highway Basics
Day 64: Use the highway when you notice you are about to snap.
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Day 65 · week 10
Highway Basics
Day 65: Use the highway when you notice you are about to snap.
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Day 66 · week 10
Highway Basics
Day 66: Use the highway when you notice you are about to snap.
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Day 67 · week 10
Highway Basics
Day 67: Use the highway when you notice you are about to snap.
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Day 68 · week 10
Highway Basics
Day 68: Use the highway when you notice you are about to snap.
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Day 69 · week 10
Highway Basics
Day 69: Use the highway when you notice you are about to snap.
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Day 70 · week 10
One Car Catches Your Eye
Day 70: Use the highway when you notice you are about to snap.
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Day 71 · week 11
Highway Basics
Day 71: Review the skill: notice, let pass, return to the situation.
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Day 72 · week 11
Highway Basics
Day 72: Review the skill: notice, let pass, return to the situation.
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Day 73 · week 11
Highway Basics
Day 73: Review the skill: notice, let pass, return to the situation.
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Day 74 · week 11
Highway Basics
Day 74: Review the skill: notice, let pass, return to the situation.
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Day 75 · week 11
Highway Basics
Day 75: Review the skill: notice, let pass, return to the situation.
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Day 76 · week 11
Highway Basics
Day 76: Review the skill: notice, let pass, return to the situation.
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Day 77 · week 11
Traffic Without Following
Day 77: Review the skill: notice, let pass, return to the situation.
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Day 78 · week 12
Highway Basics
Day 78: Keep a measured close so you can use this tomorrow.
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Day 79 · week 12
Highway Basics
Day 79: Keep a measured close so you can use this tomorrow.
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Day 80 · week 12
Highway Basics
Day 80: Keep a measured close so you can use this tomorrow.
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Day 81 · week 12
Highway Basics
Day 81: Keep a measured close so you can use this tomorrow.
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Day 82 · week 12
Highway Basics
Day 82: Keep a measured close so you can use this tomorrow.
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Day 83 · week 12
Highway Basics
Day 83: Keep a measured close so you can use this tomorrow.
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Day 84 · week 12
Open Watch
Day 84: Keep a measured close so you can use this tomorrow.
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Day 85 · week 13
Highway Basics
Day 85: One more ordinary day of not following the angry car.
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Day 86 · week 13
Highway Basics
Day 86: One more ordinary day of not following the angry car.
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Day 87 · week 13
Highway Basics
Day 87: One more ordinary day of not following the angry car.
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Day 88 · week 13
Highway Basics
Day 88: One more ordinary day of not following the angry car.
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Day 89 · week 13
Highway Basics
Day 89: One more ordinary day of not following the angry car.
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Day 90 · week 13
Return to the Whole Road
Day 90: One more ordinary day of not following the angry car.
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